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How to Ask Someone to Be Your Boyfriend

How to Attract a Man 

How to Compliment a Man

Whether To Go On A Third Date

How to Get Someone to Like You Romantically

How to Know if You Love Him

How to Tell a Man You Like Him

How to Tell Him You Love Him

How to Ask Someone to Be Your Boyfriend

 by Q. Y. Bingham


You haven't invited him to meet your family yet, but he certainly is not the guy your mother warned you about. He is someone special in your life, and you're already starting to think of him as a boyfriend. It's time to tell him what he means to you and ask him if he wants to explore being more than your trusty sidekick. 


Before Your Proposal 

Steps: 
1. Think about whether you are willing to stay together even if he only wants to keep your involvement casual. 

2. Consider the possibility that he is looking for something even more serious than what you have in mind. 

3. Have some idea of what you're looking for before you ask, so that you can stay on task. 

4. Find a special time and place for this important question. Make a date to go somewhere private and comfortable for both of you. 

Professing Your Love - or Strong Liking 

Steps: 

5. Tell him that you feel really good about the time that you spend together, and that you find yourself growing closer to him. 

6. Find out how he feels about your dating relationship and what direction he sees it taking. 

7. Share your interest in moving from going out together to something more long-term. 

8. Ask him to be your boyfriend, and explain what that means to you and how you believe that would strengthen you as a couple. 

9. Discuss what kind of commitment each of you is ready to make to the other. How will your dating relationship change? Are you agreeing to see each other exclusively, if you aren't already? Will you live together? Do you simply want to acknowledge that you have reached the next stage of the relationship? 

Celebrating or Waiting 

Steps: 

10. Relax in the arms of your new boyfriend, if he accepts. 

11. Give him some time to think about what he wants now if he cannot commit. 

12. Reconsider your needs, and whether they can still be met, if he says that things have been going so well that he doesn't want to risk changing anything. 

13. Be open and honest about your excitement, disappointment or concern related to his response. 

14. Allow for the possibility that either of you might change your mind. 

Tips: 

Timing is everything. Ask your beau to be your boyfriend when it feels right, not when you reach your 21st date or third month of spending time together. Remember that if you care enough about him to seek more commitment, then you might want to continue enjoying what you have now and see how it grows over time. 

Warnings: 

Coercion, ultimatums or other forms of pressure may get you what you want in the short run, but they typically do not lead to long-lasting relationships. 

How to Attract a Man by 

Susan Sawyer


What makes a woman attractive to a man? Follow these tips to make yourself more appealing.


Steps: 

1. Realize you only have one chance to make a good first impression. Appearances do count. 

2. Give him a reason to think about you. Wear a lingering fragrance that haunts his memory, soft clothes that he yearns to touch, a smile that he can't get out of his mind. 

3. Appeal to his senses with your sensuous voice, fragrance, clothing and appearance. 

4. Flirt with him by sending silent signals of your interest through subtle body language. 

5. Make him feel like he's the most important person in the world by focusing your full attention on him. Listen intently to what he has to say, and respond with respect for his opinions. 

6. Let him know you're different from all the rest. Emphasize your originality through your appearance, personality, intelligence and behavior. Don't try to pretend that you're anyone other than yourself. 

7. Leave a little something to the imagination. Don't bare all or tell all immediately. An air of mystery can be provocative and appealing to a man. 

Tips: 

Your appearance and body language may catch his attention, but it takes personality and charm to sustain a man's interest. 

How to Compliment a Man

1. Be sincere and friendly; compliment him the way you would want to be complimented. 

2. Smile at him as he walks by. The special attention and obvious appreciation might be all you need to do. 

3. Mention that he has a nice smile - but don't be lecherous. Simply say, "You've got a nice smile." 

4. Note an article of his outfit that catches your eye: "Great frames!" "Cool sweater!" 

5. Don't gawk. 

6. Keep your appreciation of his Adonis-like features or body to yourself - anything you say will probably sound cheesy. 

7. Give him credit for his spunk if he sports a magenta, green or blue hairdo. 

8. Compliment him on the situation at hand. For example, tell him he has some great skills on the dance floor. 

Tips: 

Try not to be too extravagant, like saying you "love" something of his. Simple, straightforward compliments are the best and leave little room for misinterpretation. 

Remember, use compliments sparingly lest you come off as insincere. 

When complimenting someone on their appearance for the first time, avoid mentioning any body parts and avoid using the word "sex."

1. Assess the situation. Who is making the plans? Is it one or both of you? Are the decisions truly mutual? 

2. How interested are you? You probably don't know each other very well yet, but are you beginning to feel comfortable with this person? 

3. Does he or she seem interested? 

4. Do you talk on the phone apart from setting up dates? 

5. Have you seen any signs of playing games? If so, don't continue this unless you really enjoy the abuse. 

6. Were you thanked on the first two dates? 

7. How comfortable would you be meeting his or her parents? 

How to Get Someone to Like You Romantically

 by Ellie Newman


Romantic attraction is all about energy - set the stage and let the flames ignite.



Steps: 

1. Love yourself - and show it, using body language: Sit up straight, make eye contact and shake hands firmly. There's nothing sexier than self-confidence. 

2. Be approachable. Again, here's where body language can help - face the person with your arms uncrossed, make eye contact and smile with sincerity. 

3. Plant some romantic seeds - put the idea of romance in his or her head without being too obvious. For instance, do thoughtful things for your soon-to-be suitor to show that you are going out of your way for him or her; listen with your whole heart when he or she speaks - there is nothing more romantic than to feel someone is really hearing you. 

4. Create opportunities for a romantic interlude. These can be either subtle ("I heard that movie got great reviews. We should really go see it sometime.") or much more blatant ("Can I cook for you sometime?") 

5. Don't be afraid to make the initial contact. Sometimes, all the other person needs is the green light. 

6. Be yourself, and take pride in your individuality. If the other person doesn't appreciate it, you definitely deserve better. 

Tips: 

Be a friend first and spend some time together. 
If your self-confidence needs a little boost, indulge yourself with a makeover or a visit to a day spa; spend some time alone doing something that you're good at; smile often and work on your posture (both of these can affect your mood). 

Focus on other things to avoid becoming obsessed - and to show yourself and your potential suitor that you have other interests and talents. 

Be patient - being pushy or needy is likely to get you the opposite response from the one you're after. 

Warnings: 

Don't waste your valuable time and energy on someone who is clearly unavailable. Does the person's body language make him or her unapproachable? Perhaps he or she does not want to be pursued in the first place.

How to Know if You Love Him 

by Helene Schneider, M.A


"He loves me - he loves me not" is easily solved with a freshly plucked daisy ... but how do you know if you love him?



Steps: 
1. Clarify what love is for you. Write down all your thoughts and feelings about what a loving relationship would be like for you. 

2. Distinguish between love and lust or infatuation. Lust is an intense sexual desire. Infatuation refers to the initial stage of a relationship, when you are "crazy" about him, but this feeling usually fades over time. 

3. Ask other people how they define love or know if they love someone. 

4. Write down how you do feel about him. For example: you enjoy his company, have similar interests, feel safe, trust him, think he is attractive, etc.

 
5. Think about how well the two of you relate to each other. For example: How well do you communicate with each other? How do you deal with conflict? Do you bring out good or bad parts of each other? Can you show different sides of yourself? 

6. Ask yourself if you see and accept him as a whole person. Love isn't just loving the parts of him you like, but choosing to love him overall. 

Tips: 
The infatuation phase of a relationship typically lasts about six months. You may think you are in love and he is perfect for you. It often takes more time to tell if you are truly compatible and whether you can really love the whole person, good and bad. 

Read books on the subject of love. Wise people have been writing about it for hundreds of years. In the bookstore, look under psychology, spirituality or philosophy. 

 by Susan Sawyer


You know he could be Mr. Right, but at the moment he's just a friend. What could be more frustrating? Follow these steps to tell him how you feel.



Steps: 

1. Use body language to let a man know that you like him romantically. Hold his gaze with your eyes, or flash a dazzling smile in his direction. 

2. Express intense interest by focusing all of your attention on him. Appeal to his ego and make him feel as though he's the most important man in the world. 

3. Send signals of your romantic interest in him by flirting. 

4. Create an opportunity to be alone together - nothing as serious as dinner, because if the evening doesn't go as planned, you will have to sit through the entire meal wondering why you let yourself get into this situation. 

5. Be lighthearted about it. Tell him that you think you're interested in him romantically - tell him why, and just leave it at that. Now it's his move. 

6. Wait until the right moment to talk about your romantic interest in him. 

7. Remember that either way, you will learn from this experience. If he returns your affection, it could be the start of a great romance; if not, it's better to know now rather than pining over Mr. Wrong, when Mr. Right is out there somewhere. 

Tips: 

A touch of humor can go a long way. Keep your tone light while letting him know that your message is sincere. 

Warnings: 

Avoid the possibility of creating an embarrassing moment in public for yourself — and for him. Express your feelings in private just in case the feelings are not mutual. 

 by Helene Schneider, M.A.


Telling him "I love you" is an important step in building intimacy in a relationship.



Steps: 

1. Think about when and where you want to tell him. Is there a special place you want to be? A certain day? For example, you might want to tell him at the restaurant where you went on your first date, or on the two-month or nine-month anniversary of your first date. 

2. Set the mood and be romantic. Buy him a little romantic gift or something that sets a romantic tone. 

3. Look at him directly, take his hand and tell him how positive you feel about him. Give him examples of things about him you really like. Be sincere. 

4. Tell him how you feel being with him, and how much you enjoy your time together. Be specific about what you value and appreciate about being with him. 

5. Follow these positive statements with telling him you love him in whatever way feels best for you. For example: "I feel I've come to love you," "I realize I love you," "I feel so much love for you," "I've fallen in love with you," or simply, "I love you." 

Tips: 

Prepare yourself mentally and emotionally for his possible response if you are not sure whether he feels the same way about you. For example, if you are hoping he will say "I love you" in return, what if he doesn't? Decide whether you are ready to be that vulnerable and whether you can handle whatever he may say. 
Go for it if you feel ready to take the risk. Love is risky! 
Try not to drink too much. If you feel you have to drink to tell him, it conveys that you can't be yourself and tell him how you feel. If this is the case, wait until you are ready.